Saturday, October 1, 2016

HOW A WOMAN ATTRACTS A MAN

A woman attracts a guy with her glowing smile, and her bright, adoring eyes. She admires him with her expressions, her gentle tone of voice, her words of genuine praise and admiration. She has sincere appreciation for his ideas, his physique, his dreams, his mannerisms, and his masculinity. She laughs at his jokes. She appreciates his intelligence, wit and perspective on life. She respects his wisdom and counsel. She looks up to him.  A woman’s acceptance and admiration of a guy makes him feel powerful and may well inspire him to want to be a better man.
She is pleasant, she smiles a lot at him, and she is friendly. She understands the power of her admiration. She is not aggressive, controlling or overbearing.  She dresses femininely and modestly. A confident woman is wise enough to keep a guy at arm’s length, in my view, careful not to give away physical affection or her heart too quickly…especially not before she really knows his character.
I know I have said this before, but it’s worth repeating. Men often will pursue someone they believe is a very precious and valuable woman. Don’t chase a man.  If you start chasing a man, you’re going to be chasing him the rest of your life so he must see that you know you are precious, priceless, and valuable. You are not “easy” to get sexually and that you are very difficult to “have” because you have godly standards and save sex for marriage according to God’s Word.  You will only give yourself to an honorable man who respects you, respects God, treats you with dignity, is willing to save sex for marriage, and upholds chastity, godly love and selflessness. Guys do not value things that come easily, they never have. Enough of that, let’s get into how a woman attracts a man:
Give him space…lots of it.
Guys sometimes need time to get to know a girl and bond with her over time, and sometimes they need time to think before they are ready to fully commit to an exclusive relationship. If you act desperate, clingy or super needy, that will probably turn a guy off.  If you act like you don’t want to talk with him, that will also turn him off. If you do call him, only do so very sparingly and be sure he sounds interested in talking with you.
Let him pursue you!
A confident woman does not force herself on a man. She does not aggressively pursue a man trying to make him be hers no matter what the cost and putting him above Christ in her life. She does not try to make him do what she wants. She doesn’t manipulate or play games.  She will SMILE and be friendly and show interest in him, signaling to him that he is welcome to talk with her. But she will not hunt him down.  She also will not be totally silent, ignoring him as if she is not interested in him.  That won’t work either!
Don’t take over his life
When a woman is bossing a guy around, criticizing him a lot, demanding things, insisting on her way, scolding her man and telling him what to do  the spark and romance will probably die. You can tell him what you want and how you feel, but let him make his own decisions, don’t push him or rush him and don’t try to take over his life as if he is not competent to handle his own affairs himself.
Relax
Does he should feel as if he is at the spa or does he feel as if he watching boxing when he is with you? The more you are relaxing to be around the more he is going to want to be around you. Now, let me say this: Being loud is not relaxing, being loud will only turn men off.  Men desire women who make them feel relaxed and happy...when you are with a man it’s your duty to create a relaxing environment. Let him be refreshed, the more relaxed the more he is gonna want to be with you. No man wants to be around a woman who is anxious. Let little things go!

Rarely complain
No matter how pretty you are…if complaining is your middle name you need to stop it. Men will find you annoying if you are consistently complaining. Well, some men won’t mind taking you out as an arm candy. But they will have second thoughts about marrying you.
Appreciation
If he surprises you with earrings, but you wanted a dress…appreciate. It’s about substance, not appearance. Be grateful for every nice he does. Including the little things. Listen! The second you stop appreciating your partner it leads to other problems. Always say thank when he does something nice for you. And one of the best ways to show your appreciation is to do something thoughtful to show that you are thankful.
Be compassionate
When a man is going through a stressful situation he may appear unemotional, but does not mean that you should ignore him. Show concern when he is upset. Be compassionate by listening to him and help him with his challenges. A man doesn’t expect you to be tough but expects you to be sympathetic. I know you are an independent woman/career driven, but don’t ever lose your ability to show compassion.
Pick your battle carefully
Always be poised when expressing your opinion. When upset choose your words wisely. Focus on being calm so that you can articulate your feelings intelligently. If you blow up and scream, it’s hard for anyone to take you seriously or comprehend what you are trying to communicate. The less emotional and angry you appear, the better you will communicate. Pick your battle properly, it’s not about winning it’s about living in harmony.

Lastly, don’t live through a man, live through yourself. Some women work so hard to please a man that they end up losing their identity and get lost in the relationship. Never define yourself through a man. Be you! I would say, don’t drop your entire life and family and friends the day you start talking to a new guy.  Keep your life balanced.  Keep your time with God.  Stay in the Word and in prayer.  Do things with your friends and family.  Keep Christ squarely first in your heart and be content completely in Him no matter what happens with the man in your life!
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