Friday, October 7, 2016

Lonely and Wondering why you are still SINGLE?

Before I talk about the title of this article I would like to talk about the WORTH OF WOMEN.

Women: We walk around with the most expensive phones and because we know the worth of these phones, they are well COVERED with an expensive phone- cover. Look at your phone the screen, its well-guarded with a screen guard. And some women walk around with Samsung galaxy Tabs and iPads all well-guarded and protected! Even the keypads, they are well protected with a keypad-protector.

But ironically, some of the ladies walk all over the streets with their bodies well EXPOSED.

Why?

Is it because the phones are worth more than our bodies or is it because some of us have not yet to realized worth as women?

The secret lies in the imagination not in displaying the tripple D's. Let him keep imagining and pay the FULL PRICE of Marriage to see it...no need to put your body on display for everyone to see...you can still look gorg without showing too much cleavage. Ladies our bodies are beautiful and priceless...Let's cover up.
Men: Are you Dating a Girl or a GROWN Woman? Well, let's find out...

Let me say this first, a boy is attracted to girls:-) A man is attracted to women. Now, this has Nothing to do with the actual AGE of a person. I am referring to maturity :-)) life vision and stage of life one is in. In fact, some people regardless of their age, will never really grow up...ok let's go! 

A girl does not Respect her Body. She has Not yet understood that her Body and heart are SACRED, and that it is IMPORTANT to be mindful of how she Treats it and who she shares it with...A woman knows her body is too precious to be played with and RESERVED for her Husband ONLY.

A girl cherishes handbags, diamonds and her shoe collection as her prize possessions. A woman cherishes her health, her sense of self, and her talents as her greatest assets.... Girls hold grudges, stays mad for 40 years and tries to get even...A woman confronts the situation right away, forgives quickly and moves ahead...A girl wants attention, a woman wants respect. A girl wants to be adored by MANY. A woman wants to be adored by JUST ONE MAN...

After spending time with a girl, you feel exhausted because she Takes more than she Gives. After spending time with a woman, you feel invigorated, because she empowers you with possibility, and a passion for life...A girl has a checklist that prioritizes superficial qualities above anything else. Here is an example of how her man worksheet may look like:-)) Hot, popular, must drive a posh car, live in a mansion, over 6 feet tall, rich.. This is the checklist of what a woman may look for: High integrity, intelligent, kind, good communicator, emotionally available, family oriented, a Christian…

A woman takes the time to reflect on the type of human she wants to be, the example she wants to leave and the vision for her life. She has put thought into her values and what she stands for. A girl has not established her moral compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent. 

A girl throws tantrums. When displeased, upset or angry, she reacts just as she did as a child by screaming, giving the silent treatment etc. A woman still feels the emotions of being upset/displeased, but has cultivated the skill of responding versus reacting. She comes to the table as an adult, and communicates clearly what is bothering her:-) it sure works better than yelling and screaming.

A girl uses her physical beauty as her currency and basis of value. A girl may be so used to feeling validated through her looks and sexuality, that she uses this as her primary tool to get what she wants in life. A woman, knows her worth is beyond her physicality. A woman bases her value on her intelligence, her strength, her integrity, her values, her contributions, her humanity...

A girl banks on a man to help her financially... A woman plans to be financially independent and she banks on… herself. And if she so happens to enter a relationship dynamic where it makes sense for her partner to be the primary breadwinner, it’s considered a bonus, not the expected life line...

A girl sees the world from a place of lack and not enough. She competes and will even tear down another in order to secure resources or a mate. A woman helps other women. She knows that there’s plenty enough to go around and takes the high road of integrity to get what she wants...

A girl cannot be bothered with anything domestic and is proud of the fact that she cannot cook or clean. A woman understands that being domestic is not a duty, but understands that it is one way of taking care of herself and others. She also understands that in the event she wants to create a family, having a person in the household who can contribute domestically is important...

WHAT ELSE??? I think there's plenty more let's continue...
Girls want to control the man in their life. A woman knows that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling.

Girls envy those who move ahead and hate the players...A woman shares her knowledge and helps others move ahead by not Hating the players but teaching others how to make it too.

Girls try to put a man 'on lock' by using sex...A woman knows that it's NOT sex that makes a man want to 'Lock' you down.

Girls are afraid to be alone. A woman cherishes being alone and uses the time for personal/spiritual growth.

Girls ignore the good guys. A woman ignores the bad guys.

Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man. A woman knows that she is pretty and Good enough for ANY man.

Girls try to monopolize all their man's time (for example... don't want him hanging with his friends). A woman realizes that a little bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special 

Girls want to be spoiled and 'tell' their man so. A woman shows him and makes him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his manhood...

Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it. A woman knows, it was just ONE man...

Girls fall in love, chase aimlessly after the object of their
affection, ignoring all the signs. A woman knows that sometimes the one you love doesn't always love you back and MOVE ON without bitterness...

Most importantly a PRAYING woman is Powerful...

Girls will read this and get an attitude....But a GROWN WOMEN will read this and pass it on to other grown women! Have a Fab weekend and stay blessed...

To become a Fascinating woman read my book”You are a Precious Pearl”

Finally, let’s talk about “Lonely and Wondering why you are still SINGLE?” .



Well, Loneliness is NOT a bad thing! If you LOOK deeper LONELINESS is actually a BLESSING. Some of you are like what! A blessing, you must be joking:-) Well, I am not joking, just telling the truth. 

And believe me! I know, sometimes it hurts to be lonely. But God is not punishing you. God is just using that pain to bring you to the sweetest loveaffair of your life...it's not about bringing you a man to fall in love with, but it is making you more like the Man who already loved you...Jesus!

You may have been a bridesmaid countless times but never a" bride” you may be thrilled to stand beside some of the best women you have ever known, but deep down still feel the fear of being left behind. Wondering what is wrong with you; wondering what you could do to make yourself more desirable...sometimes even wonder if you would be lonely forever.

Very Important: Let your Loneliness become a reminder of the cross, the sacrifice of your own desires for those of the Lord. Jesus tells us in Matthew 16:24-25, “If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross and follow Me. For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it; but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it.” It was a luxury, not afforded to those in serious relationships or marriages.

As Paul says, “The woman who is unmarried, and the virgin, is concerned about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and spirit; but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how she may please her husband” (1 Corinthians 7:34). you have been given a great gift, and this gift can only be given to you at the lowest point in your life.

Still Single??? Let your Loneliness be a life-changing experience caused by the pain of loneliness. My advice to every lonely heart, single or not, is this: Love the Lord, seek His face, read His word, and share His love with others. And you will experience the blessing of loneliness....God is SIMPLY preparing you for the person he is about to bring into your life. You are in a period of Purification! Your prayer should be PREPARE me Lord and DRAW me Closer to you...Amen!

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