You wanna know why you are still single and lonely? Then keep reading...If you're doing one or more of the things I am about to talk about, you are unknowingly turning off women of worth. (A woman of worth is someone you are proud to be with, someone you would take home to meet your family, and someone you could see being in a long-term relationship with.)
#1. Focusing mainly on your job and not making dating a priority.
#2. Misrepresenting yourself in your on what's app or facebook. Examples include not being truthful about your height, appearance, age, job, where you live etc.
#3. Being closed off to women who aren't in your desired age range.
#4. Getting caught up in a woman's appearance and waist measurements.
#5. Sending boring messages, one-size-fits-all messages or cheesy pick-up lines to women online.
#6. Texting and emailing for weeks, instead of talking on the phone and asking her out.
# 7.Saying what you think she wants to hear and not meaning what you say.
#8. Taking advantage of a woman's money, generosity, sex, fragile state, etc.
#9. Dragging things out with the wrong woman because there's no one else you're interested in.
#10. Leading a woman on by making her think you're dating exclusively when you’re also seeing other women...don't do that!
# 11. Focusing on sex too much and pressuring a woman to have sex.
#12. Dating women who deplete your energy. Examples include women who take advantage of you, are drama queens, selfish, too critical or hypersensitive.
10 Ways To Be More Successful In Dating
Guys, here's what you can do to date more women of worth and have your dates lead to a more meaningful connection.
1. Be your true self
Present yourself as the same person online and offline. Women are pleasantly surprised to meet a man who is who he portrays himself to be. Trust is necessary and starts with being honest about the superficial things (i.e. height, appearance, age, etc.). Communicate openly about who you are, your beliefs, your views on life and love, etc., so that your dates can get to know who you truly are. Be your true self and the right woman will accept, respect and like you for you.
2. Be a gentleman
Treat a woman the way you'd like a man to treat your sister, daughter or someone you care about; this means dating responsibly. Take care of your appearance and hygiene. Be a man of your word by following through with what you say. Be well-mannered, courteous and respectful in your words, behaviors and actions. Take the time to learn who she is and what she's about, and share who you are with her. Let things unfold as they're meant to instead of trying to have sex with her. When you are a gentleman, having sex will happen naturally...after you have MARRIED her.
3. Have integrity
Be honest. If at the end of a date, you have no plans to see her again, don’t say, "I'll call you and let's do this again." Empty words and empty promises create false hope and end up being more hurtful. In this kind of situation, it's better to be upfront and say something like, "Thank you for meeting me. I enjoyed talking with you (only if you did) and didn't feel a romantic connection. I wish you well in life and love." Also, walk your talk. This means doing what you say you're going to do; otherwise, don't say it.
4. Make the first move
Even though women have made strides in their professional lives, many of us prefer men to still make the first move. Don't wait for a woman to make the first move if you're interested in her. Contact her, she may or may not be interested, but by making the first move, you increase the possibility that she will respond. But please don't make mention of her appearance in a creepy way (i.e. "Hey sexy, love your body."). A woman of worth doesn't respond positively to creepy messages.
5. Be open
Be open to more than a woman's physical appearance, measurements and age. Wonderful women come in all packages. Instead of making physical appearance as your main criteria, focus 80 percent of your opinion on a woman's inner appearance and 20 percent on her outward appearance. This also means dating women who are closer in age. If the thought of being open isn't appealing, just try it and see what happens. You may increase your odds of meeting and dating more women.
6. Be thoughtful
Be considerate and caring of a woman's feelings. A woman of worth needs to feel connected to a man in order to keep a positive momentum going. When a woman doesn't hear from you in between the times you see her and when you only call her to ask her out, there's a space of negative energy that builds up in these situations. A woman likes to know you're thinking of her in between the times you see each other. You can let her know this with a text, a quick phone call, etc. It's the little things that matter and add up to make a big difference.
7. Be patient
When it comes to dating, patience is a virtue. Don't sacrifice short-term urges for your long-term happiness. When you rush things, you sabotage your chances for dating to turn into a meaningful connection with a wonderful woman. Instead of approaching dating as the destination, approach dating as the journey to finding a meaningful connection.
8. Balance your life
What you place your attention on becomes prominent in your life. Assess the amount of time and energy you spend working, with the amount of time you are with you your friends, dating, etc. If you tend to work a lot or spend most of your free time with friends, your dating life won't fall into place by itself. Dating takes time, effort and energy. Balance your life so that you're able to work well, date well and spend time with friends. When your life is in balance, life flows better.
9. Get out of your own way
When it comes to dating, the most important thing you can do is take responsibility for your side of the dating equation. This means understanding how you're getting in your own way and what's stopping you from having a great dating life. Identify the common tendencies that show up in your dating life. Then work on changing yourself so these tendencies don't show up. For instance, if you tend to attract women who take advantage of you, what are you doing that cause these women to take advantage of you? Perhaps your main way of connecting has been to buy their affection with gifts, jewelry, etc. In doing this, you don't have to open up and become vulnerable. Let's say you are now ready to find a meaningful connection so you stop buying a woman's affection with gifts. In doing so, you will find out which women want you for who you are and which women want you for what they're getting from you. Finally, a different kind of woman will show up in your life; a woman who doesn't take advantage of you.
10. Change your approach to dating
Who you've been in your dating life has resulted in the kind of dating experiences you've had. If you want better results, change your approach to get what you want. Like attracts like so if you want a woman of worth, you have to genuinely be and act like a man of worth.
When it comes to dating and love, we tend to learn from our own experiences through trial and error. We think we should know what to do and are reluctant to ask for help. It takes more courage to ask for help. Courageous men ask for help while others continue repeating the same mistakes that keep them from having a successful dating life. If you're a courageous man who wants to improve his dating and love life, I can help! Or one one the local Kay Rose Academy Certified coaches can help. Are you loving for love? Want to improve your marriage? Life Coaching? Interested in the KRA relationship programs...Please send an email to kayrose.academy@gmail.com
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