The greatest lie being told every day is “I love you.”

A glance in her eyes, the way she moves, and oh the sound of her voice may cause you  to feel butterflies in the pit of your stomach…your heart may even beat faster, this kind of emotion actually feels great…it’s so rare. But you can quickly become so distracted to a point where you can’t think. So listen to me hun: No matter how a handsome or pretty unbeliever may awaken these great feelings in you. Don’t rush anything...be patient. I know this from experience. Therefore, I advise you to take no stock in butterflies “smile” You must understand the danger of being swept away by emotion, because you can be so blinded by emotion and even make stupid, stupid decisions. I am telling this because I don’t want you to become a casualty of emotion. Hold yourself firmly in check, keeping yourself on the safe ground where reason has veto power over emotion. Guys, pursue a godly girl by pursuing Jesus. Jesus has someone for you, and that person is hidden in His heart. Seek His heart, and you will discover the rich treasure He has prepared for you. Fail to seek His heart, and you will never find her. Nothing can happen without God. God can open my heart to you far better than you could ever contrive to do so yourself.

What we should ask ourselves is why we allow ourselves to get sucked into all of the emotions, the quickly-changing feelings? A lot of us can relate because most, if not all of us have had at least one relationship that could beat the super hero Flash in a race. We may have gotten engaged or married very quickly, only to discover, a few years down the line what a terrible mistake we’ve made. And yes there are those who defy this rule, but in most cases, these ‘speed of light’ type of relationships ends up with one or more broken hearts. What we must do is to come to the realization that there are people who look for love for the wrong reasons; maybe they don’t want to be alone, they just want to be married for the sake of being married, or they just want to move on from an ex.

Love is not a feeling, it is a decision. We cannot allow ourselves to become so obsessed with emotion that we forget that we need to wait for God to help us out. Strong relationships are made when they are tested by obstacles that only make the people in that relationship better individually and as a pair. It isn’t just one thing, but many that make a relationship strong. What we should remember is that anybody can love you when things are great. It is those who truly love you who will stand by you during times of adversity. They will be able to love you at whichever stop God decides to drop you at. You can also tell if someone really loves you based on how much they resent you for not being able to come through for them when they need us to.

We cannot expect others to not be human when we ourselves are not perfect. When we say ‘I love you’ but we don’t attempt to fight for said love or be there for that person, what we really mean is ‘I love you, conditionally’ or ‘I love you when things are good and you give me whatever I want’ or ‘I love you until someone better, more attractive, richer and more educated comes along’. When we do this, we are using that person to scratch our temporary itches without thinking of the ramifications to that person’s heart. It is indeed sad, the state of love that we give to each other not only in our country, but in the world today. We seem to be fascinated and driven by emotion instead of waiting for God’s advice. A lot of us aren’t even in a place where we are able to hear from God to begin with. This causes us to be in a never ending cycle of failed after failed relationship.

I honestly think that our promises are meaning less and less because of how lightly we take religion and God in society today. We are not as committed as we used to be which allows us to constantly make meaningless promises to one another. We now have a God of self because people have become so selfish in today’s world. Doing the right thing doesn’t mean a thing to us anymore. The Bible reminds us that “In the last day’s men shall be lovers of self, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful and unholy.” 2 Timothy 3: 1-2. This means that people will do what they want and decide what they think is right or wrong in their eyes and not in the eyes of God, with no regard for how it’ll affect someone else. Our number one is self, yourself.

We cannot and should not allow our emotions to be our God. They’ll make us go over the edge but God will lead us to where he knows we need to be. Just because it works for you right now, it feels good right now or it looks good right now does not mean that God agrees with it. And vice versa, not because it looks bad or feels bad means that God disagrees with or frowns upon it. We need to remove our feelings from the equation and do what is right in the eyes of God. Emotions should not rule us. I just want to encourage everybody to value your words, keep your promises, do what is right and allow people to be themselves with the respect that you would like to be shown.

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Kay Rose Owner of Kay Rose Academy and Founder of GDA/BSOG teaches women/men how to effortlessly attract the right partner and have a secure, close relationship or marriage they want. To learn more about the KRA programs or learn how you can connect with your partners heart at every stage of your relationship or marriage send an email to kayrose.academy@gmail.com