Signs You Are in a Dead End Relationship

Before we get started with the signs of a dead end relationship… let me ask you this question: How can you stand out in a man’s mind? If you meet a guy today will it be your last or the beginning of a forever love relationship? Well, it depends “smile” it depends on the impression you make as an individual not as a type. Listen to me: This world is full of types...not individuals. Most men often date types, but no man falls in love with one. A man falls in love with only an individual who makes him feel special a unique woman. So my other question is, how do you prevent a guy from just seeing you as a type and not someone he can fall in love with? Well there are 8 steps, but I will share one with you, you can take a class to learn the rest...#1.Attract his imagination. First, unless the guy you are dating is in jail…almost every man sees many beautiful faces every single day...so how do you make that lasting impression? You have to know how to capture and attract his wondering mind and attention ENOUGH so that you can stand out from the crowd.  It’s time for you discover the real reasons to the question of why are you still single or not married...you may well be able to cure the condition...instead of just coming to terms with it. Ladies, owning the most fashionable and prettiest wardrobe in the world will mean nothing to you, if you do not know how to act in them. The way you wear your long hair, the way you shape your eye brows, the curves and all your other assets can be destroyed-almost immediately…if your actions do not add up to those of a real lady. A real beauty inside out must first ACT like one.

Alright now, let’s dig deep into the “Signs You Are In a Dead End Relationship” When emotions and time are involved it can be very difficult to move on, especially from a relationship that is going nowhere. We need to pay attention to the signs that show us that there may be no future for us in our current relationship.

His or her ex is still in the picture:

As we just stated, it can be hard to let go of relationships but when your partner keeps calling, arguing with, seeking advice from or bringing up their exes name, then it’s a problem. There could be children involved but there are ways to co-parent without letting the relationship that you had with your ex, come between you and your present partner. I dislike having to be the one to tell you but you might be the rebound. If your ex has been in a relationship with that person for years, and started dating you right after, maybe he or she has not had time to heal yet. They’re with you but their heart is with their ex. God has something better in store for you. You should be cherished as someone’s only, not sharing a spot with someone else. As hard as it might be you should leave and wait for the plans that God has in place for you.

He or she does not share the same principles and values as you:

It’s difficult to believe that people are in relationships where their needs aren’t being met. Please note that the word NEEDS was used and not wants. Some people feel like they NEED a child in their life and others don’t. But yet still those people are together. Isn’t obvious that one person will end up very unhappy, no matter if the outcome is to have a child or not have a child. In relationships there are things called non-negotiable; things that you should NEVER compromise on because you know that you need them in order to be happy. We’re not talking about superficial things like a size 20 waist or some 6 pack abs. We are talking about the things that you need to function properly in a relationship; respect, intimacy/PDA, communication, children, religion, family etc. You should not be with someone whose beliefs and needs you don’t agree with.

He or she is abusive, controlling and jealous:

The sad part is that some people don’t know what abuse is. They may feel like if they aren’t getting abused that they are not loved. If your partners gets physical with you, shouts at you, calls you names or puts you down that is abuse. If they prevent you from seeing your family, going out, hanging out with your friends or demand what you should wear, you are being controlled. If your partner gets upset if someone looks your way, says hi to you, smiles at you or tries to flirt with you (when their feelings aren’t being reciprocated) then they are extremely jealous. None of these signs are something that anyone should stand for. They have crossed the realm of plain old insecurity into what I can say is modern day slavery. Get out, don’t look back. Real love, as God explains it is patient and kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.

You give and sacrifice too much, too often:

Of course when we love someone we tend to want to give them the world, make them happy whenever and however we can, even if that means putting ourselves last. And that’s ok, if your partner does the same for you. If he or she isn’t then you are being used. This person is taking advantage of your caring heart and spirit to get whatever they want. Someone who truly loves you will tell you to stop it or step up and do the same for you. Worse yet if all your efforts aren’t being appreciated. God has set aside someone who will want to do the same thing for you. Don’t waste in on some guy or girl who doesn’t value you.

He or she has no respect for you or vice versa:

What do you mean by respect? It means that your partner takes the time to listen to you, they are considerate of your thoughts, feelings, wants and needs, they keep their word to you, they don’t lie to you, they don’t talk down to you, try to manipulate you and they don’t abuse you. Of course there are more facets that come with respecting your partner but you can pretty much get the gist of what I’m saying. If you find that your partner isn’t cutting it when it comes to those things, or you are cutting it yourself, then you should end the relationship before it becomes abusive, if it hasn’t already gone there.

As sad as it can be to come to the realization that your relationship needs to be over, it can be a blessing in disguise. It may open doors to the love that God has for you. You will end up loving yourself more and being loved better by a partner that wants the same things that you want. If things have been deteriorating for months now, just pull the bandage off.  As a daughter of the Most High God you are truly part of God's royal family (Galatians 3:26 and 4:6) YOU are God's princess. And as a daughter of the Most High God...you are beautifully made in His image. You are worthy of every GOOD thing and God's Grace (Ephesians 1:4-5) Don’t endure more suffering than you need to.

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Kay Rose Owner of Kay Rose Academy and Founder of GDA/BSOG teaches women/men how to effortlessly attract the right partner and have a secure, close relationship or marriage they want. To learn more about the KRA programs or learn how you can connect with your partners heart at every stage of your relationship or marriage send an email to kayrose.academy@gmail.com