How to Deal with Rejection

But before I talk about how to deal with rejection…let’s chat a little about how To Keep The Spark In A Relationship Alive…We all want to know how to keep the spark in a relationship alive instead of letting it fade out. So, what’s the best way to do it? By surprising one another frequently, and putting in the “amazing important” extra effort to nurture positive energy and attraction. If you are interested in re-igniting your relationship, then keep reading because I am gonna teach ways of brining the spark back into your relationship and a few ideas to surprise and delight your wife/husband.

      Now listen to me: How to keep the spark in a relationship alive goes much deeper than just flowers on Valentine’s Day. It’s about surprising each other every single day! So don’t be surprised if some of the things you find in this article are a little… surprising☺

1. Don’t Compare Your Partner To Other People

Yes, I know especially for guys that’s it’s crazy to think that you can ignore every single attractive person of the opposite sex that you bump into... But noticing and comparing are two entirely different “things”.

Comparison usually results from a problem in your current relationship. After a fight, you look at a cute cashier at the store, and then what do you do? You compare that person with your partner.

It can seem innocent. The problem is that you can’t know how they compare just by looking at the outward appearance. So you take your best guess and end up tilting the scales in their favor: “I’m sure they wouldn’t care if I came home late. Or, I know they wouldn’t care if I forgot to buy them a birthday present. The end result? You might lose a good wife over a counterfeit. Instead of comparing, try talking about problems or frustrations. It will help you grow closer, and is a step in the right direction for how to keep the spark in your relationships alive (instead of creating negative feelings)

2. Spend Some Time Apart

The problem with spending too much time together is that it smothers your spark! The spark in a relationship is just that… a spark. It won’t become a flame without some air. Spending time apart to pursue your own interests is essential to long-term relationship success. You grow to appreciate the other person even more when you’re together and you don’t end up resenting each other for the things you’ve missed out on. Best of all, you don’t fall into the dreaded relationship of having nothing to talk about besides work and what you ate for lunch.

3. Never Stop Dating

Too many people think of dating the wrong way. It isn’t just about finding someone. It’s about getting to know someone better! When you stop getting to know your partner, they stop being exciting. It’s like putting a book on a shelf. You keep it around because you like what’s inside, but you aren’t really getting any enjoyment out of it! You should keep dating your partner for the same reason you reread your favorite books: you notice new things each time. Seeing your partner in new situations reveals fun and surprising things…and being surprised is always sexy. Result? Spark ignited.

4. Don’t Be Naked All The Time

Sex is the bedrock of any good relationship.(before you get excited, I am addressing married couples here) And being comfortable with your naked body when you aren’t having sex is important too. But that doesn’t mean you need to always be naked around each other. Being naked around each other all the time kills the mystery that keeps sex interesting. And you begin to associate more and more bad experiences with your naked or semi-naked bodies: That time you argued while getting ready for a party. That time you got into bed naked after stinking up the bathroom. That time you argued about the hair in the shower drain…Each one of these situations diminishes the “Sex is about to happen!” excitement you get from seeing each other naked. Eventually it might happen that you just don’t get as turned on by seeing your partner naked. And then you both start wearing nightgowns. Definitely NOT how to keep the spark in a relationship alive! So exercise a little bit of common sense.

How to keep the spark in a relationship alive often comes down to doing the little, practical…nice things.

Cook breakfast before they wake up, run an errand for them so they can see their best friend who’s in town, or do the laundry when it’s not even your turn. What else can you do? Remember specific things they share with you …like the name of their favorite local band, or something special that they are dying to try. Use this precious information for future activities… or even simple conversations.

How To Keep The Spark In A Relationship Alive In A Nutshell…When you put the effort into a relationship, your partner can’t help but reciprocate. And if you’re both putting your all into making it work, well, you will no longer be left wondering how to keep the spark in a relationship. Don’t wait another minute! But my book on amazon “ Text the Spark back into your relationship” with over 300 messages!

How to Deal with Rejection

Why is it so easy to cry because of somebody instead of crying for somebody... listen, usually when somebody hurts you so bad it reveals the struggle within. So instead of getting mad at what they did to you...you should have compassion for them and pray for them.

Me personally,  I always see rejection as protection from what’s Not meant to be...Listen, you are already accepted by God, you are not trying to get people to accept you. So no one can reject you if you know your identity in Christ. I hope I am not confusing you, but it is that simple! No one can reject you...period. Your life should depend on God and not people. A divorce or someone dumping you doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough...it means the other person failed to notice what you have to offer...so matter what you do a blind man can't see the colour until his sight is restored. And that's what we are trying to do, we are trying to force people who are spiritually blind to see the good in us...impossible! It's a blind man telling you that you are ugly and yet they can't see...would you honestly hurt by that statement? I don't think so...why? The guy is blind...end of story. So the guy who didn’t call back, a runaway husband/wife job that didn’t pan out, business loan rejection letter are all signs that it God has something better for you.

When you give yourself to someone who doesn’t respect you, you surrender pieces of your soul that you will never get back. You might feel unwanted and unworthy to one person, but you are priceless to God. Don’t ever forget your worth. Sometimes you have to walk away from people, not because you don’t care, but because THEY DON'T. When someone hurts you time and time again, accept the fact that they don’t care about you. It’s a tough pill to swallow, but it’s necessary medicine for you.