LADIES, DO YOU WANT THE BEST LIFE PARTNER?

Dear (some) Ladies,

I'm sorry If this article will annoy some of you, but what I am about to say is the truth and if I am talking to you... please be ready for change. I know the truth hurts, but sometimes it's better to be told the truth (John 8:32)  than lies... especially, if you have never been married and are still struggling to find a husband not because there is a shortage of men, but because you are looking for a perfect man. There's no perfect men. I believe perfect love is any time you love unconditionally, without selfish intent, without concern for personal gain.

Your magazine tells you that "All men are liars" they cheat, but let’s be honest here, are all the 70 million African men liars or there is just something wrong with one African Woman? Ladies this is reality, you certainly will not attract a high level man who wants marriage... if you are always hanging out with your so called girlfriends every night at a beer hall or night club and waiting for a guy to buy you a drink and take you home... Drinking, smoking and partying every Saturday night does not exactly make you marriage material...

YOU WANT A MAN?
Invest in a good wardrobe and dress like a lady...dress modestly.
When a man comes to you, smile and be polite even if he does not fit your mental image of your kind of man... Ladies, please and please, stop going into a relationship with a chip on your shoulder... If you believe all men are bad and all men are cheaters, then it will become a self fulfilling prophecy... are you listening? Nobody is perfect! Not even you! You say you can't marry a blue collar guy like a mechanic or carpenter... If a carpenter was good enough to marry MARY THE MOTHER OF OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST" Why isn't one good enough for you? Truth be told... An intelligent guy will open your mind... a handsome man will open your eyes... but a GENTLEMAN will open your Heart:-) Hun, soul mates recognize each other by how they FEEL not how they look or by job title... (That's why I wrote the book " Don't marry for "Looks" or "Money" but how "WELL" he treats you. Why? Because I get tons of emails from women who married for job titles who are miserable and depressed. I also get emails from men who married for looks and end up having a girlfriend to experience the joy and happiness they lack in their homes... because the beauty they thought would hold the marriage isn't strong enough to hold the marriage. Listen! When you come across a beautiful soul, you FALL in love with the person. Their words and actions take you to a place that only a soul can... Be in love with a beautiful soul! Not what you can benefit from a person. At the end of the day, if you don't get along with Mr. Rich or Mr. Handsome (Or should I say Wrongsome) you will be miserable...

Do not focus on where a man is now, but look at his potential and what God is able to do in his life... you have the power to help a carpenter open his own furniture multi-million company or you can turn a plumber get on top of his game... just depends how you look at things. Two women can look at the same man and one can see a CEO in him and the other can see a loser. So it just depends on what kind of a "Helper" you are... are you the kind that can help a man birth a million?  I mean, What’s the point of being beaten to a pulp every night by some rich, good looking and non caring man? Do you want a future where you will sit in a traffic in your car with very dark sunglasses covering your swollen eyes? You look out of the window and see a happy couple on the road walking, talking, holding hands and laughing like newly wed couple even after 12 years of marriage... Your perfect man is out there, believe, work and Pray and you will get him...

But No man ever wants a 'crazy' wife...

It is only guys who want a 'crazy' girlfriend...So don't be deceived...A guy who wants you to party hard every weekend, expose your boobs, wear skimpy clothes, loud make ups and get down with bottles of beer while he is on 12 will NEVER marry you...A guy who wants sex everywhere with you when he is not yet married to you will see you as a whore when the time for marriage eventually comes... Have you ever wondered why most of these crazy guys go for the 'timid' and 'plain' looking girls when it comes to marriage, but dump the sexy, sassy and gorgeous looking ones? Because a man wants more than beauty for marriage... Those boobs you are flaunting everywhere will eventually sag someday... So invest in yourself.

A man really wants a place he can call home... He wants a woman who is modest and can take care of his parents...

One with whom the children can confide in... The one he can make major decisions with and tell all his fears... He wants a wife, a mother and a sister all in one... I'm not saying that looking good is bad... Infact looking good is good, but you have got to look beyond that and pay more attention to things that keep a home... if you want to get married. If you truly want to attract a decent man? Please, be decent yourself and do not let any man use you to pass the time... be KIND to yourself. May GOD grant you the wisdom to be the woman a man truly needs AMEN!

KRA WIFE SCHOOL

Wives: You are married well, he provides everything but you ever lonely and isolated. Listen, workaholic husbands, pursuit for success can sometimes become a serious family destruction. Always on the move with the busyness of your business meeting with investors. For starters, here is an example of how your calendar should look like if you want to improve your marriage (at least 2-3 a week) 18:00 hrs Have dinner with wife and kids at HOME (not your girlfriends house)19:00 hrs Talk & walk, hold hands with wife 19:30 Catch up with the kids 20:00 Share feelings with wife/Listen to the news while cuddling with partner 20:30 hrs Pray with my wife...  Imagine spending quality time in communion with your wife can change your relationship.  Just imagine!!! It's SO WORTH IT! There are so many things out there trying to snip and tear your marriages. But you have to be PRO-ACTIVE in guarding your marriages against anything that would pose a threat to that (including having 24/7 meetings with the so called investors)

Wives: Welcome your husbands home with a SMILE and kiss. Start by sharing the good news first and save grievances for later... especially after a nice delicious dinner prepared by you. To serve your husband in anyway is not a punishment... it's a pleasure! Grievances should be administered gently, with a low soft, sweet voice reserved for your husband only "smile" most men need space when they come home from work, so don’t harass him when he arrives home. Hint: Have his favorite drink chilled and ready to be served (I would recommend Coke, Fanta or some non alcoholic wine) and just let him chill out in front of the TV, or read his newspaper. .. And please don't complain about his sports channel just let him watch his favorite team (Arsenal) in peace. Yes-lovelies, sometimes having a happy marriage you have to become a surrendered wife (just submit, you are not a man trying to fight another man) So instead of trying to change a grown man who doesn't want to change... just change yourself. Be kind and enjoy the peace that comes with submission!

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