Demanding that your wife should have a high school hard body? Yes, if you are not a priest this article was written for you. By the way “Husband” stands for Homemaker, Uncompromising Faith, Stable, Blesses his wife, Active at the gate, Necessary for the family and his wife, Dad to kids.
Who is God really talking to in Proverbs 31? Well, keep reading you will soon find out. This is one article you should make sure your husband reads…I mean, highlight the entire article in red.
Oh, so you think your wife is no longer attractive? *smile* please underline Proverbs 31: 30 reads, “Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain.” There is no indication that the Proverbs 31 woman won a beauty contest. Her husband sees his wife for her inner beauty. A truly beautiful woman is a woman who trusts the Lord. She is praised because of her noble character. Noble character gets better with time but skin wrinkles with time. Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting. Over the course of time, kindness is more important than beauty. Face the facts no one keeps their shape forever. The man who does not see the true beauty in the fear of the Lord is a blind man.
The Proverbs 31 man is not demanding that his wife be a high school hard body. He doesn’t measure her value against some magazine model. She is not forced to conform to some narrow, cultural standard of beauty. Never make negative remarks about your wife’s appearance. Never, never, never compare her to anybody. Men, you need to release your wives from expectations based on a cultural false definition of beauty. Cheerleaders and models do not impress the Proverbs 31 man. Faith, diligence, joy, kindness, loyalty and integrity impress him. Anybody can be beautiful. You can buy it in Jaribu cream or any other lightening creams. There are bottles and bottles of beauty for sale in every store. Yet, it takes the fear of the Lord to have the beauty of noble character. This woman is wise and kind. These are the adornments of true beauty. The world’s standard of beauty is not our standard of beauty.
We discover in Proverbs 31:25 that “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come” (NIV). The Proverbs 31 woman can laugh. This woman can face the future with confidence. What does this tell us about our Proverbs 31 man? Would she be so bold about her future if her husband were a drunk, wasting the family money on drugs, foolishness, beer, pornography, airtime for side girlfriends and prostitutes? Could she laugh at the future if her husband was cruel or mean to the kids? Could she laugh if her husband was selfish, violent, out of control, verbally abusive and oppressive?
She can only laugh at the future because of the noble character of her husband. She can laugh because her Proverbs 31 man is stable and committed to God, morally faithful and a loving father. The incredible difficulties of life become laughable for a woman. Think of how hard life is for a woman. She can laugh. Our man has not caused his wife sorrow and grief. She is not worried sick wondering what hubby will do next. Where he is now? Will he come home tonight? It’s month end, what will he do with the family income? If she is able to laugh at the future, she is standing behind her godly man, laughing. It would be impossible for an abused and unloved woman to laugh about anything. A husband who can give his wife such confidence in the face of life's trials and difficulties is truly a remarkable man. How many wives can laugh at the future? How many wives can laugh about anything? How many women have enough confidence in their husbands to laugh at the future? The Proverbs 31 woman can laugh…does that sound like your wife? I hope so because she doesn’t you need help like yesterday.
Quick question? Are you an invisible father? Where is our proverbs 31 man? In Proverbs 31:28, 29 we find the Proverbs 31 dad at home. The kids are not wondering where dad is…there is none of that. We usually think of the wife as “the little homemaker.” I propose that our man is also a homemaker. He is necessary in the home as a father and a husband. He isn’t some recreational beast coming home late to Pamodzi Hotel, snapping his fingers for room service. His life is given to God, his wife, his family and his home. A husband and father is as much a part of the homemaking responsibilities as the wife. Parents are two oars on the same boat. Parents are a team to raise godly children. This is seen in Proverbs (31:27‑31) Let’s go… v27 – She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness… v28 – Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises.
The children rise up and bless mom. Where do you think the children are when they arise and call her blessed? My two kids are at home when they rise up. Here is a glimpse of the Proverbs 31 man at home. He is at home with his kids. The kids don’t wake up wondering where dad is. The kids have a dad and know their dad. A dad in the home is becoming a novelty. This isn’t mother’s live-in boyfriend. The kids don’t wake up to find another note from dad away on another business trip again. Mom isn’t some single parent with a deadbeat, runaway creep for a father and a husband. This is dad at home. He isn’t the absentee father.
What do the children say about mom? They call her blessed. Blessed means to be level, stable, or happy. The kids confess that mom is great. “Mom, you are happy. Mom, you are awesome.” Proverbs 31:25 reads mom laughs and verse 26 says mom speaks with wisdom and kindness. Proverbs 31:29 reads mom trusts the Lord. She is blessed because she obeys God (Proverbs3:18). Notice, the kids are sitting together with dad discussing what a wonderful mother and wife they have.
We also find that our Proverbs 31 man is not a hypocrite. He is not leading a “decent” public life in front of people and a dark, secret, private life of sin and pain at home. He’s not preaching or singing in the choir on Sunday, then going home and abusing his wife and kids. We see him at home with the wife and kids. We look through his window into the living room. Home is a good place. His kids are not cowering in fear. They are not cringing in a corner in fear of dad. He is not an angry volcano waiting to erupt, a selfish, violent monster. The kids speak blessing. They express themselves and out of the abundance of their little hearts, their mouths overflow with admiration for mom. Now realize that these are unmarried kids at home. Today there is so much freedom that parents don’t even know where their kids are, let alone what they are doing. This tells us something about the Proverbs 31 dad: His kids haven’t run away from home. They are at home and with dad and mom. They are speaking to one another expressing warmth, encouragement and hospitality. Can you imagine kids talking like this? Our culture has our kids so confused they can’t even put their hats on straight. Where did the kids in Proverbs 31 learn to bless their mom? Who was the model for this remarkable behavior? Did they learn to bless on their own? Every parent is a teacher. Every home is a school. Most of the great lessons of life are learned by example. Well-mannered children do not happen by accident, but through a never-ending labor of love and discipline. It is hard work to raise good kids. The Proverbs 31 man is a great role model at home for his kids….You too can become this man. A Proverbs 31 Man. Lord, here I am on my knees again surrendering ALL …yes, it’s a song. “I Surrender” by Hill Songs Cornerstone 2012 DVD Album.
Kay is a Christian Relationship Expert and Motivational speaker...helping couples and singles all over the world giving them tools they need to improve their relationships. Questions? Kayrose.academy@gmail.com
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