Ladies Do You Want to Be Treated like a Princess?

I know, you are already asking yourself this question: Is it really possible for a guy to treat you like a royalty every single day?  Impossible, you say. Well, it depends on your standards (Read my book on standards to learn how)

Imagine you having a boyfriend who says things like:

“Why don’t you lose a bit of weight?”

“Hey dude what’s up?” Seriously, calling a woman dude…guys be serious ka;-)

“Stop banging my phone, I will call you back whenever I am free”

“You are too fat, maybe you should start going to the gym.”

“How come you are not like her?” He could even be referring to his ex… too funny right?

“I want you to grow your hair long because I prefer women with long hair.” Well, maybe he needs to find someone who was born with Brazilian hair.

Men, oh men! Seriously, some of these men can be so annoying, critical and blunt. Sorry guys, I am not going to defend your behavior even for a half a second *smile* listen, true love is about accepting her imperfections especially if you want her to accept your flaws as well. Okay ladies do you want to be treated like a princess? Then raise the bar high. Yes very high, don’t be scared. I know it often seems impossible to get men to treat us the right way. But the truth is, we are actually to blame in a lot of ways. I know it’s hard to accept this truth, but we really are. We hold the key to the amount of respect and kindness that we are given from men, and it’s much easier to control than you may think.

We want guys to treat us like princesses. We want them to care about us the way we care about them. But wonder why they treat us like sexual objects or want nothing more than a “hook up” or causal relationship. This can be very frustrating makes you question your worth, doubt love in general, and makes you feel like you have to adjust to the standards of others. The truth is, we are our own worst enemy in this sense.

You cannot believe men are required to treat you with respect if you allow them to disrespect you. If you allow yourself to be treated as a sexual object, then that is what you will become. If you respond to his late night text messages or compromise what you care about because someone is showing you affection, the expectation is set low from the beginning. Also, if you are in a relationship where you are disrespected, emotionally abused and lied to and but you continue with the relationship, why in the world would those things ever change? If a man talks down to you and you decide that is okay, you will always be mistreated hun. If you do not value your dignity, who else is going to? ( I wrote a book dating with dignity, get it…it will help you) You know what you deserve. You know how special you are and how much more there is to you than what some guys were ever willing to take the time to discover. Set your standards like little higher than your shoes. You don’t have to adapt to a lifestyle that seems like the better option to being lonely. It’s better to be without a relationship, than with a man who uses you and don’t really care about you.  But if you are in a relationship, here is something you can teach your man: Getting him to open the car door.

When you go out with him and he parks the car and is about to step out, place your handbag on your lap and start to go through it as you continue to sit in the car. Pull out make-up bag and start applying lip gloss on your lips. Do something and pretend to be completely engrossed checking out your face in the mirror. He might get tired of waiting for you to come out, and who knows, he might walk over to your side, and open your door for you. And this is when you should flash your cutest smile and say “sweetheart… it’s just so sweet of you to do that. Thank you…do it more often please. If he is wise he will get the hint, and do this more often. Hey! You deserve it.  If he still doesn’t get it, you still have your handbag to do it all over again. After a great meal at a nice restaurant, as you walk out towards the door, take his arm in yours and hold hands as you lean towards him. As you get near the door, slow your pace just a little bit and allow him to get to the door first…yes indeed, let him open the door. This is when you fasten up just a bit and walk through the door first, even if it doesn’t come naturally to him to allow you to walk through first. When you step out, catch a glance at him and just smile, and look away but hold that smile on your face. I am sure he be very curious to know why you are smiling. If he asks, then you can tell him how sweet he was to open the door for you that moment will be something he’s going to remember for eternity.

Listen to me Precious ladies. The secret to finding the man that will treat you the way that you deserve as a child of the Most High God, is refusing to settle for less than that from any man. The power of getting men to treat you right is in your hands hun, because you’re the only one allowing them not to. I mean when I say that if someone disrespects you or hurts you please actually walk away. Like physically WALK. And I mean the other direction. You don’t need to be painfully married.

But let also say this: Not all men are bad. They are some great men out there and being broke doesn’t make him a GOOD man. So forget that! I mean you can find good men among the poor and the rich, but the question is, can you wait?  Wait for that man, don’t rush into a bad relationship... Wait for a man that will treat you like a super star that you are, rock on ladies.

Men: Sorry guys, I hate to break the sad news to you, but remember this always: The moment you start ignoring her, you are teaching her to live without you... treat her like trash and very soon you will bump into her with a fine man at Manda Hill who will treat her like a princess. There is nothing so attractive than a man who treats his woman well....but it takes a real man to realize that one woman carries a special favor from God and only wise men can tap into that.

For a man to think about these things that really matter--things that don't even cost anything is so precious. Showing your girl how much she means to you is what us girls long for.