First of all, let me say this: If a man is married, it simply means he is off the dating market... But Kay, what if he is on separation? Sorry hun, he is still married... you can only date him, if he has his divorce certificate no exceptions(dating a married man is like signing up for curse) is that what you want?I hope not.... so you shouldn’t be noticing any married men, whether they express interest in you or not...using my tips on married men is a time waster and useless... even harmful to you. You shouldn’t be friends with an unavailable guy you’re attracted to, no matter how many people are getting married every weekend. A child of God is always relaxed and at ease with herself, no matter how long it takes... God is faithful. Your own man is on the way. Love me or hate me, my job is to continue keeping you grounded in reality...Raw truth, nothing sugar coated.
If you find yourself doubting whether or not you are showing sufficient interest in a guy, chances are, he hasn’t shown sufficient interest in YOU!Read that again. I am saying this because it is so easy to help a guy out:
He didn’t ask you for your number? Give him yours anyway...this is a Never!
He didn’t ask you out? Suggest it yourself... can we meet for coffee next week?
He didn’t specify a day and time? You quickly say, let him know when you are free...
He didn’t come up with a place to go? Before he knows it you mention your favorite restaurant...Puleaze:-)
He didn’t offer to pick you up? You suggest meeting him there...hello! That's wrong.
He hasn't said anything about marriage? You hint, all my friends are getting married... really?
If helping a guy date or marry you has worked, then congratulations... email me what did and I will write a book about it to help other women"Smile" but I know that when you pursue a man and he eventually marries or or dates you... you will be the one reminding him it's your birthday, anniversary...because it wasn't his idea in the first place. This is not the kind of relationship you want as a child of God... it just doesn't work.
Listen!When a guy wants to date/marry you, all he needs to know is if you want to date/marry him too. He doesn’t need you to become the Activity Director and make reservations on his behalf or telling him to marry you because your biological clock is ticking. It's better for you to marry late than to fall into the hands of Mr. Wrong.
Once you respond to his request to see him, he can and should do the rest. If he can’t, he doesn’t want to. Or if he’s incapable of it, you definitely don’t want him to be your boyfriend.
Remember, you already have a job. You don’t need another one. You want to be a girlfriend, not the Director of Scheduling...so let's talk a little about the roles for men and women in dating:
HIS JOB
His job is to scan the field, what's app, Facebook or offline...
His job is to target a woman...
His job is to approach her...
His job is to ask her for her phone number...
His job is to call/text her...
His job is to ask her out on a date...
His job is to pay for the date... no splitting please: -) Let him clean cars and raise money to take you out.
His job is to plan another date to see her again...no begging, if he doesn't call after the first date make peace with it...and it's next! Believe in the abundance of God.
HER JOB
Her job is to be a Proverbs 3:15 woman (Real Diamonds are not cheap)
Her job is to be her best self... inside out
Her job is to have a life of her own...
Her job is to return his phone calls, if necessary...
Her job is to say yes or no to a date...
She has less to do because her life can’t be about stressing over a man and having sleepless nights wondering where he is and why he hasn't called or sent a what's app message...
A child of God sleeps like a princess and takes care of her mind, body, and soul. If the phone rings, it rings. If it doesn’t, she’s too busy to notice...KNOW YOUR ROLE LADIES.
AND FOR YOUR OWN SANITY, THERE ARE ONLY THREE TYPES OF MEN OUT THERE:
#1. Men who have no idea you exist to do anything about you...
#2. Men who do know you exist, but refuse to pursue you...
#3. Men who know you and pursue you (They are called SUITORS)...
Listen my huns, the third group of men are the only men you need to deal with in dating... Not number 1 & 2. These men are not worth your time, NO MATTER how hot, cute, and perfect. There is absolutely NOTHING you can do about the first two groups of men. It's time to wake up to REALITY! If a man doesn’t know you and you are trying to get his attention, then you are doing the pursuing. If you are his type and your paths cross, don’t worry, you will catch his eye. And for the men who do know you, there is nothing you can do except be a challenge.
SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT... Don't ever mistake loneliness, for missing someone whom you love. Loneliness is a warning, that you are in the idea of love and not in the truth of love. If you are in the truth of love, you will never have anything in common with loneliness and emptiness. How do you miss love? Love is present at all times and is never absent regardless of time, distance or space. Look at your relationships and marriages and remove that lie of feeling lonely and empty...GOD is LOVE and ever Present. Do you remember the prostitute who fell at Jesus' feet? That woman was devalued, misused, mistreated, rejected by her lovers, and abused to the point of being hurt beyond every measure of hurt. Jesus held her up in heart and reached into her heart, speaking volumes of love, by asking those around to pick up a stone and throw at her, implying that even if they tried to hurt her, that they couldn't hurt her anymore, because that woman's pain had been removed through pure, unconditional and nonjudgmental love. Ladies, let Jesus love you, let him take away your pain and let him show you how amazingly valuable you are, because only He can love you like, love could really love you... Everyone woman around the world wants be loved by someone and most often end up getting hurt. Whereas God himself, is trying and wanting to love you. Now when I say trying, I don't mean that He is trying in desperation. I mean He loves you, but you just don't believe it. Just imagine, God, is trying and wanting to love you. Just imagine and let it sink in. God is trying and wanting to love you....email me or what's me one this...I can Help!
Lastly, a man doesn't need to know your worth, you are priceless. But it is up to you as a woman to feel worthy and deserving. No man can give that to you. Remember, Just as much as a man can break you down, a man can most certainly build you up too. It is up to the man to decide if a woman is worth pursuing. No woman can force him to pursue her. So don't ever FORCE a man to fall in love with you. It never works.
Sooo, be patient while God turns everything around for you. Don't walk away from what you are waiting for or give up on the God you believe in... Be patient, be still and continue believing. It is not about how soon you get married, it is about how sure are you getting married...How sure you are about God coming through for you. God is not testing your patience, your patience is testing your sustainability and assuring you that you will know how to receive and keep that marriage when it shows up, instead of receiving and losing it.
Wondering if you will ever find a GOOD woman to marry? WONDER NO LONGER!!! I have fresh from the oven single women who just graduated from the KRA Wife School (they are between 24-55) and are ready to settle down...so what are you waiting for? Send me an email now! kayrose.academy@gmail.com For more dating tips ...Don't forget to like my Facebook page www.facebook.com/kabwerose
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