Have you ever felt that way? Have you ever asked yourself that question?
Have you ever watched lovely couples hand in hand at the Manda Hill and wonder why them and not YOU? To a point where you even forget that you are a Psalm 139:14 woman and start having doubts about your attractiveness. You start doubting yourself and start looking for flaws in you whenever you look at yourself in the mirror. And end up feeling so so discouraged and unhappy...does that sound about right?
And some of these women you see happily married might even be very plain looking and you ask yourself how did she get married and not me...how exactly did this happen? How did she get such a pretty boy? Ok. Let's get to the bottom of this...Stop dreaming. Sometimes when you see a happily married couple and the wife is plain Jane and her partner is a pretty boy...Don’t say, how did she get him? It wasn’t her. It was him, who did something that you may never do. He relaxed his visual requirement s a bit so that he can find someone he could build a strong marriage with...so maybe you are not seeking marriage because if you were you would re-visit your visual standards.
I am not saying settle. I am just saying, don't be too hard on yourself and others. Remember, you are not perfect, neither will your future husband be. Having the most money or a tall and handsome man has nothing to do with how successful your marriage will be. It is time for you to start looking at the CORE of a man. Look at what is inside of a man not just the outside...look at his morals, his ethics, his judgment, his spirit. Stop looking at his face or at his wallet or at his house or at his car and look in him....
But don't look for a man who is broken...I didn’t say broke. I said broken, meaning, his spirit, his wallet and his heart. If he doesn't have faith in GOD to get him back on his feet, he might not have a plan to fix his bank account and he might be emotionally unstable too...He can’t take care of you if he can’t take care of himself. Let me say this again...I didn’t say broke . A man being broke is not an excuse for not giving him a chance. Money can be made. It comes and it goes. The problem with us ladies is that, we are so busy looking at a man's pocket and miss the potential in him. He could be a potential millionaire walking around helpless looking for a good woman to help him birth a “MILLION”. My ex broke brothers do you agree with me? I am sure you do*smile* But anyways, let's get to the main reason I wrote this article and I think the title of this article should have been:
WHEN GOD PUTS A MAN "TO SLEEP"... IT"S ONLY GOD WHO CAN WAKE UP HIM
Gen 2:21 and it reads, So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. Did you read that? Please read again and do it slowly this time. Do you see why approaching marriage on your own without consulting the author of it might be a little frustrating and depressing. Seeking a guy on your own without prayer might cause you to overextend yourself in order to get married or keep his attention and end up living I Corinthians 6:16 instead of what God has called you to be... but I John 1:9-10 is available for to correct the issue Now, not tomorrow...
For now, since you know the secret you can choose to wait on God or you can choose to waste time on a man who isn't your Adam. There are so many signs that screams "my Adam" when a man has been "awakened" by God so that he can clearly see and receive his beloved...without being forced or being told why he should marry you because he will do something similar to what Adam did. He will acknowledge YOU as being the one God has made just for him. When your Adam is fully awake there is no forcing involved...No begging...no bribing his mother or sisters to like you. When he recognizes you as his Eve not even his mother and family can stop him from marrying you.
So the right time is not when everyone around is getting married. The right time is when the guy is ready to embrace (James 1:17) the gift God has for him in the form of the woman who is meant to be his bride. His wife. His covenant companion until death. And when he is awakened, he too will act...without being forced.
Not because you nagged him, trapped him with a fake pregnancy or manipulated or threatened or seduced or anything in those lines.
Here is another secret to help you be in a relaxed mode as you wait...
The same God who put Adam into a state of spiritual unconsciousness is the same God who will awaken him to act...to SEE you. Nothing else! To do what it takes to put things into position to make "his Woman" his wife. God is still in the process of making YOU suitable Genesis 2:18 for "him". And it's God you will awaken him to realize that...in his time. Not yours.
See, You don't have to sell yourself short. You just have to be patient and prepare for yourself as a wife. But I really wonder how many of us really remember that as we are in the process of either waiting to be brought to our beloved (Genesis 2:22) trying to persuade someone into being with us or attempting to do whatever we can to be accepted by a guy is not necessary. It's getting right with God so that He can present you to your Adam.
Waiting, for us sometimes may seem meaningless. But there's something at the end of the wait. I know waiting is hard, I get that! But for now take a chill pill and just RELAX. You are not in control God is...even when He puts up a dead-end sign on your love lane don't try to force it...let go and just accept it for what it is, and allow him to guide your steps(Psalm 16:9). Always remember this: Waiting, by God's design, is not an interruption of the plan...waiting is part of the plan. Wait on God! Otherwise you might end up with a cheating or an abusive partner who will mistreat you and beat you day and night. Love is patient. (I Corinthians 13:4) Waiting simply means that something good is coming. The wait maybe painful, but God is good (Mark 10:18) and His plan is good (Jeremiah 29:11). You can wait with hope, even in pain, because you know that something good is coming. Trust me, God wants you to wait because He is doing things in you, through you, and polishing you to shine like a diamond that you are... He has not forgotten you. Being older doesn't mean you won't be married. It can actually mean that you're simply more prepared for the responsibility of it. And that's a good thing.
Most importantly a "Whole woman" is a lot better for a man in marriage than a broken one. After reading this article you can fold the paper and put it away and DO NOTHING about your situation or you can email me and join other singles around the world on a 21 Day Fast that will change your life forever. Email: kayrose.academy@gmail.com
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