Soul mates! It’s such a vague thing. People have all sorts of opinions about this. I’m aware of the vastness and complexity of this topic; it’s almost like looking for a needle in a haystack. Either way, it’s worth a try. What is it actually about? Is it a completely made up concept? Or is there any actual truth to it? Well, I’m on a pursuit to unveil the mysteries of this idea; to find out whether it is real or just a fable?
What is a soul mate? Is it for everyone or just the romantically inclined folks? Either way, the idea of having a person specially made for you and you alone is too juicy to not consider. Let’s begin by simply defining the word. Soul mates- A person with whom you have a deep and strong connection; one that is so strong that you’ve never experienced this with anyone else. As this connection develops, it turns out to become a love so strong and unbreakable. It’s a bond that binds two people together… Your soul mate will be able to understand you and connect with you in every level, which brings a sense of peace, calmness and happiness when you are around them. You’ll also become aware of the beauty of life and nature because you’ve been given a special gift that you’ll always appreciate.
The above stated definition of a soul mate is a worldly concept… I believe in the existence of soul mates but my definition extends far beyond the traditional idea of ‘The One’. I believe that a soul mate is a person designed by God for you and that He would bring the right two people together... It isn’t something that you set out to find but in turn, at the right time, God brings it to pass. Divine relationships are God-centered. He is the center of the relationship and everything revolves around Him... Everything happens in His time and we need not go out and try to make things happen. It involves having complete trust in God and knowing that He will bring the best to pass… It’s also something that is sealed by marriage and should always be cherished and loved. Soul mates are brought into your life so that you can grow and expand into your greatest and highest potential possible. Each will sharpen one another like a knife and promote each other at all times.
Let’s think about ‘attraction’ and ‘attachment’ for a second. We may come into contact with many people in our lives… We may be attracted to a few of them and attached to a few. I think that a good combination of these two qualities should be found in a soul mate. We may feel like the attraction could lead us to the right one, but God should remain as the center of attraction in our lives. Love is not logical; it is of the soul. And the soul knows a thing or two; it’s pretty darn smart when it comes to matters of the heart. It’s okay to follow your heart when you know that the Spirit of God resides in you. He will grant you the desires of your heart. The minute we replace God with other people or things, we can be sure that chaos and confusion will follow.
Now, I’m not saying that the relationship is going to be a walk in the park. It’s going to be a hell of a ride where every muscle of your body and soul is going to be challenged… There’s sure to be a lot of drama and craziness…Trust me on that one “smile” The secret to making it work is to never give up and to continuously work on the relationship. Perfection may never be achieved but constant efforts are required. Many of us are quick to write of our relationships when it gets difficult, but that’s not the way to go about it. We want constant happiness and the ‘honey-moon’ phase. We want bliss without a breakdown. Both love and pain exist within us. This means that a lot of our unresolved issues that we bottled up in the past is most likely to come to surface in our most intimate relationships. We need to think of this as a good thing. When these issues come up, it’s a chance for us to heal from all those past experiences that hurt us and move forward… We could also try to not point fingers at the other person and introspect ourselves every time we see something annoying in the partner. Maybe it’s time for us to make some changes to the way we behave and operate. Our souls want to grow and help us to become better people. The Spirit of God always wants us to look to him and grow in His truth. Our Soul mates are the people who give us the opportunity for growth by triggering our issues so we can become conscious of them and create a better reality…did you read that? Read it again.
Choosing Love means that we see beyond what is in front of us. God created all of us and He put goodness into everyone. It means we see the potential in our soul mates and try to look beyond their faults and short comings. It means we are kind, compassionate, understanding, forgiving and EVER-patient even when it’s so difficult. Its simply focusing on the good in somebody else rather than the bad. It means consciously committing to work through our stuff; to keep our side of the street clean.
Some say that it’s just a sad concept that pathetic people believe in. Some say it’s almost like a fairy tale; to meet your perfect soul mate. Women wait around for their Prince charming, waste their lives and never really reach anywhere. I must point out that women do make a big deal about these things. Some actually wait for the right one while some others just want to be flung around by some senseless men… I’ve heard people say that nothing comes without work and if you want something to happen, you need to go out and make it happen. I’m not so sure that that philosophy will get them anywhere as far as matters of the heart are concerned. You can force these things onto people. It should be felt.
But then again…who’s to say that they’re wrong or that we’re right? If we were to sit down and try to make sense of the wonderful functioning of the universe, we’re sure to have a nervous breakdown. I say this because there’s a big strong creator of the universe who makes sure that everything goes according to plan and monitors everything. The only thing that we can be sure and confident about is the existence of an Almighty God.
The concept of Soul mates does exist, but not the version that everyone goes around believing. We need to base that concept on the fact that there is a big God who controls everything. Trusting and having at most faith in him is very vital. Without His blessing and guidance in our lives, we can be absolutely sure that we’re heading towards a cliff and will fall down soon. It’s going to be a dead end if our life isn’t God-centered. God has designed a soul mate for everyone but we should leave things to Him and not try to take it into our own hands because Failure is inevitable if we do. Patience is the key. Patience always pays off at the end. The Father God wants us to wait patiently for the gifts he has in store for us. He knows our needs and wants better than we do. He has got a big master plan for each one of us. Most of the time, we go off with our own fancies and make our own decisions without any regard for God. That’s when we crash and burn. A lot of so called couples get together thinking that they’re right for each other and realize only later that it was a big fat mistake. Relationships which aren’t meant to be won’t go very far. It’ll crash and burn at some point. We can save ourselves a lot of time and energy and pain if we just wait and be patient. God loves us so much and wants the best for us. The concept of soul mate isn’t like the stories portrayed in Hollywood television. It is the kind of love that comes, not by finding the perfect person but by learning to love an imperfect person unconditionally. It’s an alliance where the both people learn to love each other unconditionally and keep God as the center of their relationship.
It’s beyond all reason and sense. Patience is an integral point. It’s divine and it should be left to God. “He makes all things beautiful in His time. “ Amen!
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